is it just me or has there been a new surge of “fat, autistic men are the root of all sexism” coming from neurotypical feminists lately
"i didn’t say autistic i said fedora neckbeard living in mom’s basement!" how very subtle of u, come back when those stereotypes weren’t associated with neurodivergence LONG before they were associated with sexism, when they’re not meant to convey executive dysfunction and social anxiety and """low mental age"" or whatever the term is.
Remnants of the “Chris Chan era” of the internet, where the best way to covertly mock people with ASDs was/still is to compare them to creepy, misogynistic dirtbags like Christian Weston Chandler (Chris Chan, the “Sonichu” guy).
The fact that a few MRAs fall in line with his physical description has helped continue that trend, with a lot of people partaking in it not realizing that the iconic “neckbearded MRA brony” stereotype has roots in that same Chris Chan shit. People on 4chan and Reddit will STILL use “neckbeard” in conjunction with “autism.”
People need to recognize that people with autism are often social outcasts who have varying degrees of external social awareness and might not be as adept as neurotypicals are at understanding social dynamics. Misunderstanding people and growing up alone makes one resentful and Men’s Rights preys on those types of resentments. I’ve got an ASD myself (I’m set very close to the neurotypical/autism border) and I’ve worked with people who have more “severe” ASDs, and they can be (CAN BE, not ARE) very suggestible. A lot of times, if you work with them, they can come to understand why their resentment doesn’t justify being sexist.
The idea that all MRAs are fat, doughey autistic guys with superiority complexes and fedoras is rooted in the kind of fatphobia and ableism that has no place in progressive circles. It’s punishing those who have already been told they’re disgusting and worthless. This successfully dismisses (and, I’d argue, also absolves!) the alarmingly high number of conventionally attractive, socially adept neurotypical men who make up a large part of the MRM- male supremacists who I actually think are far more dangerous because of how socially active and physically disarming they are. It’s setting up fat, autistic people as the “mascot” of the MRM, when there are so many MRAs in the fitness community, so many thin MRAs, people who we would consider conventionally attractive if they hadn’t committed such heinous acts, like Elliot Rogers.
And you set up the assumption that anyone who looks like this…
(Shane Koyczan, WHO IS AN ANTI-BULLYING ACTIVIST AND A BEAUTIFUL POET, YOU FUCKING ASSHOLES!!!!)
…must be an MRA, thereby encouraging people to associate a BODY TYPE and a MENTAL DISORDER with a NATIONALLY RECOGNIZED HATE GROUP, and to let their guards down around anyone who doesn’t look like that.
This is bullshit, it’s the kind of bullshit you’d expect to see from the Patriarchy and we need to put an end to it.
And quit fucking using Shane Koyczan’s face for your snarky, ignorant neckbeard macos, you pieces of shit! GO LISTEN TO SOME OF HIS SLAM POETRY AND THEN LOOK AT THE GARBAGE YOU JUST APPLIED HIS IMAGE TO.
Fun little trick I learned in therapy: validation. When someone is upset, don’t try to fix the problem, point out the cause, or tell them it could be worse. Just validate their emotions. Be like, ‘shit yeah man, that sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m here for you.’ That’s literally all you have to do to make them feel better. Thank you and goodnight.